The theoretical explanations of homosexuality and why homosexuals are not queer.
OK so let’s face it. Gay is in. Our society is in a state of ‘sexuality flux’ like never before and more and more gays are coming out of the closet, getting married, making money, and living the big life and possibly more heterosexuals are realising that they have a gay in them as well. Heterosexual marriages have been declining and possibly in a decade more homosexuals will have a family life and heterosexuals will remain single.
So, what is homosexuality?
First of all, all of us are naturally bisexual, we are not naturally hetero or homosexual, only our maleness and femaleness are balanced in a way that we finally project ourselves either as male or as female according to social perception, upbringing, and other such factors. In some people, there could be equal maleness and femaleness as far as personality, attitudes, likes, preferences and behaviour are concerned and these individuals are unable to define their sexuality and could be openly bisexuals. Some others may feel more male traits of aggression, dominance, extroversion in them and if such an individual is female, she is more likely to be gay/lesbian and would be attracted and attractive to females. Women who have more femaleness in them would be attracted to both men and male-like females. Women with stronger masculinity might be attracted and attractive to women or to female-like men and in some cases to other gay men.
Homosexuality involves our underlying bisexuality
At a play when we naturally feel more attracted to the same rather than the opposite sex we involve our bisexuality. So a homosexual is actually a bisexual who feels more attracted to the same sex than the opposite sex and the heterosexual is a bisexual who feels more attracted to the opposite sex than to the same sex.
Our social perceptions are strongly ingrained in us, and these social perceptions prevent us from entertaining our homosexual tendencies. In most cases these social perceptions are developed in childhood, within schools, family, society and societies or schools or families that encourage, promote or endorse homosexuality are more likely to have more homosexuals. Neither homosexuality nor heterosexuality is our natural tendency, psychologically having both male and female traits in us in the anima and animus, we are attracted to both males and females and are thus naturally bisexual. Carl Jung has suggested that animal is the unconscious female nature of a man and animus is the unconscious male in the female. We are then trained or moulded according to society and become either homosexual or heterosexual according to societal perceptions.
Let us consider an example. Suppose, Jane is a natural bisexual and then she is brought up in a society which endorses and glorifies or simply supports homosexuality. If Jane is aggressive, dominant and feels that she has a strong man in her, she will naturally feel attracted to women or too soft feminine men. If however she sees herself as feminine with qualities of patience and compassion, she would feel more attracted to aggressive men or aggressive females if she is homosexual. If for some reason she retains her bisexuality, there will be an attraction to both feminine men and masculine women.
It is natural to ask if bisexuality is our natural tendency, why are homosexuals considered queer? The plain answer is homosexuals are not queer or different, they have simply endorsed one end of bisexuality rather than the other. The outcry and fascination for homosexuality are baseless as homosexuality existed and exists at all levels of society, in all kinds of societies and of course within us. Even the strongest conservative priest could nurture significant homosexual feelings which he simply never reveals due to the need to conform to social perceptions.